Why women deserve better sex education
Many women grow up without honest conversations about sex. The
latest episode of Don’t Hold Back shares the answers they were never
given.
Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners or viewers aged 18 and older.
We need to learn how to have uncomfortable conversations without taking offence.
How do women learn what they were never taught? Many women in South Africa grow up without open conversations about sex, confidence or communication.
In the latest episode of the JacPod Original video-podcast, Don’t Hold Back, host Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with respected gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo “Mpume” Zenda (AKA Dr Gynae) to talk about what happens when women finally start asking their own questions.
Together, they unpack how shame gets passed down, why pleasure matters, and how to speak up in relationships.
They also explore the importance of teaching children about sexuality using age-appropriate, honest language.
It’s a practical, honest and culturally grounded conversation about taking ownership of your body and your voice.
You have a right to say what you feel. You have a right to say what you want.
Whether you're navigating your first relationship or finding your voice later in life, this episode offers honesty, empathy and a few unexpected laughs.
In
this episode:
03:29 The Importance of Early Sex Education
09:08 Personal Experiences and Cultural Norms
11:03 Consequences of Lack of Sex Education
16:13 Reprogramming Your Mindset
17:06 Understanding and Loving Your Body
19:20 Society's Influence on Body Image
22:20 Sex Education and Parental Guidance
Listen or watch below:
More about Dr Nompumelelo Zenda (Dr Gynae)
Dr Nompumelelo Zenda is a Johannesburg-based OB-Gynae and medical sexologist, widely recognised for her work in advancing sexual and reproductive health in South Africa. She is the founder of We See You, a consultancy focused on innovative, inclusive approaches to wellness. As a Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine, Dr Zenda brings both medical expertise and cultural sensitivity to her work. Through her media presence, published work, and public health advocacy, she helps young South Africans make informed, confident decisions about their bodies, health, and relationships.
Meanwhile, what does it mean to raise emotionally healthy boys in a country that teaches men to stay silent? In a previous episode of Don’t Hold Back, host Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sat down with poet, author, and social activist Zola "Blackie" Tshayana to discuss a crisis often overlooked: the mental health of men in South Africa.
If you're raising boys, loving a man, or healing from your own wounds, this episode is an essential watch or listen.
Don’t Hold Back is an internationally recognised podcast created by Jacaranda FM, East Coast Radio and Deutsche Welle. Each episode tackles taboo topics and real-life challenges faced by South Africans under 35 - from identity and culture to mental health and relationships.
MORE ABOUT NOZIBELE QAMNGANA-MAYABA:
Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is an award-winning author, HIV activist, certified life coach, and TV presenter. She is best known for her bestselling book I Am Still Me and for hosting the groundbreaking docu-series #YesIHaveHIV, which earned critical acclaim for its impact on HIV awareness in South Africa. A respected public speaker and social commentator, Nozibele uses her platforms to challenge stigma, empower young people, and lead honest conversations about identity, health, and personal growth.