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A Reddit user has been left puzzled after her relatives complained about her for taking her 10-month-old child to a wedding where infants were not permitted, because, in her opinion, she had her baby under control.
She says although one of her family members had organised a babysitter for the wedding, she did not feel comfortable leaving her child with a stranger, and she made the couple aware that she would be bringing her baby along.
“My cousin lives a 6 hour drive from me and the rest of our family. A few months ago we all drove over there for his wedding. Due to limited space, no children were invited to the wedding except the bride's young nieces and nephews. My baby was 10 months old at the time and I wasn't comfortable leaving him alone in an unfamiliar place with a stranger, which was a babysitter that my other cousins hired for their own kids. So I decided to bring him to the wedding. I wrote on the RSVP that I was bringing him,” she wrote on Reddit.
She added that she made the couple aware that her child wouldn't be an inconvenience to them by putting him on her lap and bringing their own food.
“My cousin didn't say anything so I assumed that he was OK with it,” she says.
She added that although the child cried at the ceremony, she manage to control him.
“My baby cried at the ceremony but I quickly took him out of the room. At the reception I had him with me the whole time in a body carrier. He didn't make much of a fuss and I thought everything was OK.
“After the wedding my aunt (groom's mom) confronted me and told me that I was rude for bringing my baby without permission. I explained that I wrote on the RSVP what I was planning to do but my cousin didn't object. She said that my cousin and his bride had a problem with it but the bride didn't want to start any drama because she doesn't know me well.
“My other cousin's baby was
7 months old at the time and my aunt said that he had no problem leaving his
baby with the "certified" babysitter and I should of done the same.
And some of my cousins were upset because they thought that the groom gave me
special treatment by letting me bring my baby and making them leave their kids
with a babysitter. I didn't mean to start any drama,” she wrote.
Many Reddit users said it was insensitive of her to bring her baby to the wedding.
“Your baby literally did the thing that the bride/groom wanted to avoid - disrupt the ceremony. You had plenty of time to find a babysitter or other family member to watch your kid while you went to the wedding but decided that you were just above the rules,” wrote one Reddit user.
Another Reddit user said she should have stayed at home instead of bringing her baby to the wedding.
“Or, if you're really not comfortable leaving your baby with a sitter, just...don't go to the wedding. Staying home is always an option,” the user wrote.
Another user shared how her wedding was ruined by a parent who brought their child to her wedding, even though the invitation clearly stated that no kids were allowed.
“This right here!! I told everyone my wedding was child free. I even had friends stationed at the front in case people brought their children to direct them to free babysitters - I knew people would try and go around it. And still someone brought a baby in and sat in the back because their baby ‘would be fine’. We barely even knew this person. You can hear this damn baby crying on my video and it pisses me off 24 years later every time I think about it,” wrote the user.
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